Relationship or Reason

Dr. Bill Effler • January 12, 2026

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One night, a father was putting his seven-year-old son to bed when the boy said, “Dad, I’m not sure I believe that God made everything in the universe. Are you telling me that everything we see just happened all of a sudden?”

Thinking quickly, the father asked, “Have you talked about the Big Bang in school?” “Sort of,” the son replied.

The father explained, “Some people believe that there was a tiny, super-hot spot in the beginning. Then, for a reason no one fully understands, everything burst forth like a flower blooming from a tiny seed. That’s how everything began.”

“Really?” the boy asked. “People actually believe that?” From that night on, the father and son began going to the library to research together. The father's willingness to learn alongside his son inspired the boy to embrace the mystery of life. He realized that it’s far more important to dive deeply into the journey than to seek quick, definitive answers.

Indeed, relationships birth understanding. When a person feels safe in a relationship, even the most challenging information can be received with grace and openness.

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